So many of us live in stress. It may be work related or you may just have a lot on your plate, juggling work, family and your own need for “me time”. In our fast paced lives of today, we are constantly faced with more tasks to do, more decisions that we have to make and more pressure to meet deadlines. But we are rarely trained or given advice on how to cope with all these challenges.
A common reason why you may find it hard to get your head around all the demands on you is that you may not be fully able to focus on solving the issues that are causing stress because you are constantly bombarded by thoughts of what you still need to do or what has gone wrong. Many of us do not have the ability to sit down in silence for about an hour and think things through. If you can do that, you are an exception. We often find that it is easier to just go on rather than face the fact that we need to deal with the stress and make some changes in our lives. Changes require effort. Putting energy into thinking what needs to change and then act on our decisions is sometimes too much to ask of ourselves.
Another problem can be one-sided perspective. You perceive the world subjectively. You assign meanings to events without even realising it. This defines how you feel about what is going on around you. In simple terms, it defines whether you see a glass half full or half empty. It requires training to monitor your thoughts, feelings and self talk in order to change things in your life. And who's got the time for that?
Even if you do become more mindful and have learned to control that critical voice of yours, it takes time to become really skilled, so the real change in your life may be months or years away. And you feel you need the change now. You feel something must be done now or your mental and perhaps even physical health will be in danger.
So, do you really need a life coach? It depends. Can you solve your problems yourself? Can you wait a few months or years for things to start changing as you become more mindful? If you can, you don't really need a coach. If you can't, however, if you feel so stressed and frustrated that it impacts the quality of your life, perhaps it is the time to team up with a coach.
How exactly will a coach help you? To put things simply, through some questioning, you will both discover what it is that really needs to change. You will set your goals and find the ways to achieve them to suit you. Your coach will help you identify and eliminate the reasons why you have not yet been successful in achieving some goals in your life. She will ask questions that may be challenging and as a result will open you up to new possibilities that you have never thought about before.
Most importantly, a coach has a belief in you. She knows that if you are booking sessions with her, you really want the change and she will use a whole range of skills to make it happen. She will not judge you when you fail to complete the tasks that lead you to your goal, but instead will help you choose the tasks that are more manageable. Before you know it, you will realise that a change is happening and that you are getting what you have wanted.
Unlike other types of therapy, life coaching aims to achieve results within weeks or days, rather than months or years. It equips you with strategies that you can use in your life, rather than just giving you a sympathetic ear. It puts you back in control of your life.
So, do you need a coach? The decision is yours.